Why do we feel unhappy or unfulfilled in our relationships? Why do we complain, judge others or blame them for our problems? Usually, it's because we feel that way about our self. Our relationships and life experiences are a reflection of our inner world. How we see the world and interpret the actions of others depends on our relationship with our self. To change your relationships with others, you've got to change your relationship with yourself. Own your feelings Accept that you alone are responsible for the way you think and feel. No one can make you feel that way.
Own responsibility for allowing yourself to feel the way you do. Be self-aware Step back and observe yourself from a distance. How do you react to people and situations? Are you reacting unconsciously from the "wounded child" or responding in a calm, compassionate manner? When you're conscious and aware of your feelings in a situation, you have the power to respond, rather than react.
Be authentic Be true to yourself. There's no need to put on a mask or a persona for someone else. You are perfect, whole and complete the way you are. Love yourself unconditionally Accept yourself for who you are, the parts you like, the parts you don't. You're part of divine creation.
When you know and believe that, you will love and accept yourself the way you are. Never belittle yourself Never put yourself down or disrespect yourself. Don't allow anyone else to treat you in a way that you don't approve of.
Never accept less than what you deserve - from yourself or anyone else. Take care of yourself first Remember the airline stewardess telling you to put on your own oxygen mask before helping the person next to you? You can't take care of someone else, your family, or your kids, if you don't take care of yourself first. Make yourself and your health a priority and do what it takes to get well, in every way. Get in touch with your Higher Self Your intuition is your Higher Self, the self that knows without knowing, sees without seeing. It is this self that will guide you towards your higher purpose.
Any time you spend in meditation, prayer or solitude, cultivating your relationship with your higher self, will be time well spent. Learn to connect with yourself at a deeper level, find your purpose, and understand your role in the universe. It will transform your relationship with yourself, and with everyone in your life.
Priya Shah writes about self-improvement and women's empowerment. Click here for relationship tips and advice.